Look Forward and Let Yourself be Happy

I write a daily journal, at least on most days. I used to write the journal at night, at the end of the day, but all I would do is mull over what went wrong. I would worry if she was really angry at me or just tired, if I could have done better in that meeting, that I was a failure for not finishing something early.

Instead of a healthy digestion of what happened, I would beat myself up.

I would pound away at all the things that I thought I had done wrong. I did a lot of good things, a lot of bad things, and all I would do is sit down and obsess over the mistakes.

If you had an abusive coach like that, would you fire them? I would. I did.

I still write a daily journal, but I do it in the morning. I look forward, and that's everything. I start in the morning. I coach myself forward. I let myself look at what to look forward to.

You are coaching yourself every day. Why would you hire an abusive coach?

The mean coach shows up in the evenings every now and then, but I remind myself that I fired him and send him on his way.

Coach yourself to recognize the great wealth of health, life, friendship, family, and happiness that is right at your fingertips. Let yourself recognize it, to spend your one, crazy life reveling in it.

Attempts at Enlightenment

I'm not enlightened. I aim for it, though.


The world needs more introspection. For every human just discovering that meditation is verifiably amazing for your mind, body, and heart, there are a thousand fretting over how many trinkets the TV says is the only way to demonstrate your love at Christmas. Spoiler alert: the answer is zero.

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The business world has a process called five-whys. We pour energy into finding root causes in our jobs, but come home and just sit in front of the TV.




Why do we not approach our whole lives with such rigor? Enlightenment is a process. It is the method we approach the unknowns in our life, and how we either answer them or find peace with our inability to answer them.


The short answer, for me, is to keep digging. The first answer to my questions is the easy answer, the red-herring. Why does this happen to me? Why am I like that? Why does he always do that to me? The real answers are under the layers.


You need not only inspect your pain. You must also ask yourself why you find joy. Why do I love exercise? Why do I miss my favorite teacher? Again, the real answers are under the layers.


Then, when you are exhausted from digging, sit the with thought for a while. Hold it in your lap, and then ask yourself how you will change. That is the magic. You cannot just ask. You must take that knowledge and do.


This is no guarantee that your life will be magical once you ask "why?" a few times. And this is no guarantee that this process will work for you. But try it out.  It has worked for me.